A 5th grade teacher invited Heather and I to a barbeque this past Sunday evening. Her dad lives in another part of the city and decided to have a “bbq” for her and any new teaching friends that she met in the first week.
We got ready to go- Heather had a nice dress on, our friends Andrew and Rosie nice clothes as well, and I had on jeans, a t-shirt, and my red sox cap. I said to Andrew as we were leaving, “you’re all dressed up, Sarah said it was a barbeque.” Andrew, being from Maine with probably some approximate idea of what a barbeque should look like, went and changed into jeans saying to his wife Rosie, “It’s a barbeque!”
The house was beautiful. We entered through a lush landscaped yard with a variety of tropical plants. The stairway led into a living area that was enclosed with a wall of windows. As I entered the living area, I saw person upon person dressed in their finest wares. Dresses, button-up shirts all tucked in to nice khaki pants. Shoot!
There weren’t no horseshoe pit, no cornhole, no hot dogs, hamburgers, none of the sort. Instead, the houseowner’s servant immediately offered me a glass of wine or beer. (at least the “barbeque” did have beer- that was the one familiar product that I held onto) Then, the servant came around with a small appetizer that I proceeded to drop on the floor- Shoot again!
At this “barbeque,” we all sat down at a long table-clothed table with fine silver and fancy place settings. The food was terrific, of course, but it weren’t no barbeque! In fact, I don’t think I’ve been to such a fancy dinner party in my life.
The people were friendly and once I got over being self-conscious about my tattered appearance, I had a really good time.
My realization is that I am of a very privileged class here in Manila. My apartment literally is a glass castle in the sky and my social group holds “barbeques” with shiny napkin holders. On my taxi ride over to the party, a beggar with a deformed arm tapped my window for a good three minutes asking for some small donation. There is so much to take in and process right now and for the most part we are so busy with school and settling in to a new place, that there isn’t much time to reflect on our surroundings. My sudden change in wealth status in addition to my daily experience of extreme poverty will be something I will be struggling with while I am here.
In the meantime, I need to figure out a way to show these people what a real barbeque looks like.
(Note on Grammar in post: For those who are not familiar, the language used above is meant to reflect Vermont accents or "redneck talk.")